On Age & Getting Old
Ten years ago, a random man on a dancefloor nightclub helped me get over myself. It was at the peak of my binge drinking career and I’d craft a great night out with avoidant and creative storytelling.
Most nights I was a Hip Hop dance teacher named Kelly, and I was careful to never give out my phone number – or at least not the real one – because it was an important time for me to heal and to learn how to be myself outside of a relationship.
I’d been dancing with this guy for a couple of songs. He was enjoying the chase and angling in for the kill. Over the din, he asked me how old I was. I made a big fuss saying I was a lot older than him and Oh My Goodness, so much older than I looked! Eventually I confessed that I was turning 40 that year.
He held me at arm’s length, looked me over,
and announced gratuitously,
“Honey, you don’t look a day over 35!”
I was 28.
My surprise and outrage and pure joy is still palpable. I laughed and laughed and still laugh remembering that night all those years ago. I did not take him home, but I took with me and still hold so dear, the important lesson of getting over the ridiculous concept of age defining my value.
“I see your agedness. I see you getting older. It is the most powerful thing I have witnessed.”
May today be the day that you choose yourself and step into your power, not despite your age, but because of it.
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