My First Hater
Today I received my first piece of hate mail.
With a fake name and no return address, I can’t respond to him privately.
So I thought I’d write to him here – since it’s clear that he follows my work.
Dear Mr Hater,
Firstly, I’d like to thank you for taking the time to read my work.
As a new writer, it means so much to me that someone is reading and listening and thinking about my work.
Secondly, please don’t waste any more of your precious energy on hating. It poisons you and…
Oops, I bet you didn’t intend on this outcome…
Your words fueled my reserves to keep on creating and to keep on having a voice.
Thirdly, I’ll quote the wise words of Elizabeth Gilbert in Big Magic: Creative Living Beyond Fear. “If people misunderstand what you’ve created, don’t sweat it. And what if people absolutely hate what you’ve created? What if people attack you with savage vitriol, and insult your intelligence, and malign your motives, and drag your good name through the mud? Just smile sweetly and suggest – as politely as you possibly can – that they go make their own fucking art.”
Lastly, my website is not the place for you.
But the internet is a really big place and there are so many sites where I bet you could feel really welcome.
I urge you to go find those places.
Go find your own people.
And may you find your peace there.
I need to hear more stories about strong women leading beauty-filled and spiritual lives, and so I created Empress Crow and Rabbit. It’s a forum to showcase the inspirational stories of women in uniquely feminine careers. It's also a bridge between what we think we know and what we feel is right. Thank you for joining me – let’s all learn, grow and celebrate the feminine together.
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